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DENIAL PATTERNS

1.I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling

2. I minimize, alter, or deny how I truly feel.

3. I perceive themselves as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well- being of others

4. I lack empathy for the feelings and needs of others.

5.I label others with my own negative traits.

6.I think I can take care of themselves without any help from others.

7. I mask pain in various ways such as anger, humor, or isolation.

8.I express negativity or aggression in indirect and passive ways.

9.I do not recognize the unavailability of those people to whom I am attracted.


LOW SELF-ESTEEM PATTERNS

1. I have difficulty making decisions.

2. I judge what I think, say, or do harshly, as never good enough.

3. I am embarrassed to receive recognition, praise, or gifts.

4. I value others’ approval of my thinking, feelings, and behavior over my own.

5. I do not perceive myself as lovable or worthwhile persons.

6. I seek recognition and praise to overcome feeling less than.

7. I have difficulty admitting a mistake.

8. I need to appear to be right in the eyes of others and may even lie to look good.

9. I am unable to identify or ask for what I need and want.

10. I perceive myself as superior to others.

11. I look to others to provide my sense of safety.

12. I have difficulty getting started, meeting deadlines, and completing projects.

13. I have trouble setting healthy priorities and boundaries.


COMPLIANCE PATTERNS

1.I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.

2. Compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or anger.

3. I put aside my own interests in order to do what others want.

4. I am hypervigilant regarding the feelings of others and take on those feelings.

5. I am afraid to express my beliefs, opinions, and feelings when they differ from those of others.

6. I accept sexual attention when they want love.

7. I make decisions without regard to the consequences.

8. I give up my truth to gain the approval of others or to avoid change.


CONTROL PATTERNS

1. I believe people are incapable of taking care of themselves.

2. I attempt to convince others what to think, do, or feel.

3. I freely offer advice and direction without being asked.

4. I become resentful when others decline my help or reject their advice.

5. I lavish gifts and favors on those I wish to influence.

6.I use sexual attention to gain approval and acceptance.

7. I must feel needed to have a relationship with others.

8. I demand that my needs be met by others.

9. I use charm and charisma to convince others of my capacity to be caring and compassionate.

10. I use blame and shame to exploit others emotionally.

11. I refuse to cooperate, compromise, or negotiate.

12. I adopt an attitude of indifference, helplessness, authority, or rage to manipulate outcomes.

13. I use recovery jargon to control the behavior of others.

14. I pretend to agree with others to get what they want.


AVOIDANCE PATTERNS

1.I act in ways that invite others to reject, shame, or express anger toward me.

2. I judge harshly what others think, say, or do.

3. I avoid emotional, physical, or sexual intimacy as a way to maintain distance.

4. I allow addictions to people, places, and things to distract me from achieving intimacy in relationships.

5.I use indirect or evasive communication to avoid conflict or confrontation.

6. I diminish their capacity to have healthy relationships by declining to use the tools of recovery.

7. I suppress their feelings or needs to avoid feeling vulnerable.

8. I pull people toward them, but when others get close, push them away.

9. I give up my self-will to avoid surrendering to a power greater than myself.

10. I believe displays of emotion are a sign of weakness.

11. I withhold expressions of appreciation.


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